The Foundation will help reset your nervous system so that your brain and body are able to do the healing work of each step.
The Foundation or Who I Choose to Be:
Belonging, Gratitude, Love, Altruism, Quality Sleep, Nutritious Food with good energy, Movement, and Sunlight to get grounded to your Root. This removes trauma, fear, and guilty for Right Speech and corresponds to The Law of Pure Potentiality- for deeper Intimacy. Make the choose who you want to be and listen to music at 396 hz to help harmonize your body, mind, and soul. I recommend listening to the 396 Hz Frequency as much as possible during Step 1, you can also listen to it in your sleep.
Chapter 1: Belonging and Community
The Quality of your Life Equals the Quality of Your Relationships:
1. The relationship with yourself (MOST IMPORTANT)
2. The relationship with a Higher Power
3. The Relationships you have with others
Isolation and Loneliness are often the keys to unhappiness. Throughout history, most of humanity lived in villages, tribes, or communities. No one lived alone. Get connected to your community as much as possible, be around people, talk to people, help others. Becoming connected to your community will help you to feel a sense of belonging. If you do not know how to start find some volunteer opportunities, take a walk, do a random act of kindness, help out an elderly or disabled neighbor, rescue a dog from a shelter, smile at strangers on the street, paint positive sayings on rocks and leave them for others to find. Harvard researchers have discovered that Community is the key to happiness from their 80+ year long study. There are so many ways to contribute to your community, whatever your skill set is, join in and begin to spread positive vibs to others. Prosocial behaviors, helping others, and altruism has been proven over and over again to bring benefits of various kinds, even if this is not the actor’s intention. The positivity will come back to you eventually, but lets start by increasing connections for your support system…
- Who are supports in your life? (Family, Pet, Neighbor, Friend, Co-workers, Store Clerk, Church/Temple, Hairdresser, social groups, or support groups) What/Who makes you feel safe? Who can you rely on when you need help? (informational, medical). Reach out to these people now or find people from the suggestions in this chapter.
- What is an interest that you can do with others for fun or relaxation?
- Join a support group in person or online, such as: Support Groups Central, Emotions Anonymous, 12 step groups, church groups, NAMI, Mental Health America community, Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance, The Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), Zencare, Wisdo, Meetup, Facebook or Reddit support groups, or track down old friends on social media. Who do you want to get closer to and be able to confide in?
- Imagine you were new the to area and wanted to try at least 2 methods to meet new people such as join a Book club, a dinner club, gym, sports team, a networking event, hobby club, AA, take a lesson, volunteer, bring a dog to the park, or anything to get you out and make new connections, have shared experiences, and validate you as a person.
- Maybe start going to a place of Worship, Support Group, Educational Institution, Anonymous Group, or Spiritual Group, anywhere to learn and grow or even better- go to several!
- Contact connections on social media to get together in real life. What are groups or Meetup groups you are willing to join or Start?
- Have the right mindset to being open to new possibilities.
- Focus on taking Planned Risks and Saying “Yes” and Accept Invitations. Watch the movie “Yes Man” or the “Yes Day”- to get inspired to take a chance. Faith is taking a risk when you do not know the end result. Without out faith, we have no hope.
- Asking Someone to Hang-Out, when communicating with new people or those you have known, listen, ask about them, take the focus off of you and you might make a new friend. Do not be too pushy, but if it doesn’t work out one time, try asking a second time and then if it still doesn’t work, let it go.
- QTIP- Quit Taking it Personally – you cannot control the actions of others. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dreams and fears. You have no idea who is hurting on the inside or why they do what they do, but its not about you, its their own issues. Do not worry about other’s opinions, unless you want to be miserable.
- No Assumptions- that never makes friends and never makes you feel better.
- Try other forms of social connections, such as contacting an old friend or joining a social communication group, such as Dialup or a local choir
- If you are still feeling lonely contact a warmline in your area.
- If you are feeling unsafe reach out to a hotline- please call, you are special and suffering right now, someone on the other end of the line does not want you to suffer! In the US you can call 988 or Text the word Hello to 741741. List of international suicide prevention hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/
- My Commitment to Change to reduce loneliness
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4.) ______________________________________________ - FOR PARENTS: Help your children get connected, establish friendships, relationships with peers and healthy adults. Children that are connected to some type of spirituality/faith have much lower rates of mental health issues and addiction. This does not have to be a formal religion. Encourage your children to find their joyful activities and be kind. Do things with your child, art projects are always great and often free or cheap.
Link to Harvard Research Study:
Children and Mental Health: https://www.zocalopublicsquare.org/2022/11/14/religion-teen-mental-health/ideas/essay/
